I use a standard Bosch oil filter, it is painted black, never had issues with the paint coming off. Do stay away from the Fram filters that have the grip coating on them.
It does have a label stuck to it that I do peel off. Not that I have ever had one come off prior to my removing them 1st.
Yes a filter wrench does help the job go easier, but beware that some "generic" filter tools that fit the end of the filter have too thick of a side wall and won't fit into the opening of the pan bottom.
You can find filter wrenches that will fit without paying the $$ that BMW would want for the same tool, search the lieberry here on this site.