F14, The problem with automotive relays is that their coils draw about 3 amps. As Rob points out, the Bosch relay coils only draw 0.35 amps.
It might be possible to drive an automotive relay with a small relay which is driven from the ICU. This would allow higher current handling contacts to be driven by the low power output of the ICU.
Rob, Hold-in on the automotive starter relays is usually somewhere in the range of 5-6 volts, so drop out shouldn't be an issue. As far as the rating of the 161 relay, the model designation is for 100 amps vs. the designation of 75 amps for the K relays. I would have to think that the difference would relate to an ability to handle higher currents that may not show in the specs.
I haven't researched them, but there are a few Suzuki and Yamaha relays that look like they may be good replacements for the Bosch units. What has caught my eye with them is their price which is in the $10 range. Perhaps the coil current is low enough on these relays that they could be wired directly to the start button avoiding the ICU. Unfortunately, there are no readily available specs for any of these relays, and I don't have the time right now to look for them.