Just a followup:
Before leaving Colorado to ride home to Oregon, got sick of the constant dumping of fuel so lifted the tank and stuck one of those rubber vacuum stem plugs onto the fuel tank overflow tube. I had exactly one of those vacuum plugs in my spares kit. Snug fit.
Did stop the leak of fuel, but also seemed to prevent the tank from equalizing pressure. At one point in Utah, after getting stuck in a road construction delay on a 90-something degree day with the bike HOT now, went to open the tank fill hole at a gas station and the tank was so pressurized it just erupted in fuel and vapor out the fill hole - over the tank, instrument panel, tank bag, etc. - really impressive, fuel everywhere, lots of hot fuel vapor goodness. Everywhere. Very good there were no open flames nearby.
Other than that one time, no issues. On returning home added the BMW official fix, the hose from the return down to the fuel pump area (and pulled off the vacuum plug), so far no leaks or issues. I did have to bend the return tube to accept a hose, but had a 'tool' in my toolbox which I inherited from an old boss: a craftsman auger or screwdriver ground down to a gradual point, bent at a 90-degree midway. It fit perfectly into the tube that needed bending and provided sufficient leverage and support to make the minor adjustments needed.
Thanks again y'all for the peace of mind and solution help, awesome forum.