Hard Hat, as you know there are no guarantees in life! But the odds are better than 50/50 that your future Beemer will be pretty solid. I picked up a K100 that had been sitting for 9 years (not running). The gas was putrid. There was residue on the inside of the tank but the seams were fine. Lots of scrubbing and the thing shone like new. The tanks are aluminum. My bike had 61,000 miles on it. The log book indicated various service checks done (no specifics on the work) up to 42,000 miles. I found that book after I bought the bike. When I pulled it apart to check rear main seal, clutch, splines, clutch cable boot, etc., etc., I was pleasantly surprised to see that the splines looked like new! And the driveshaft U-joint will have a light click at center. This is, apparently, normal according to Bruno of Iron City, Ontario. He is the driveshaft rebuild/ final drive guru for these machines. My rear brake cylinder leaked a wee bit after I flushed the fluid and then stopped after being used a bit. Hasn't missed a beat since. The throttle body rubbers will likely need replacing. The weird Z breather pipe for the crankcase (?) will also need to be changed (no biggie). The rotors could be a pain in the ass and expensive. Mine are close to minimum spec but I am very easy on my machine. My brake fluid looked brand new (got changed). Tranny fluid and final drive looked fine (got changed). The rad flowed like Niagara Falls with no signs of corrosion. According to many, these rads are over-sized for the machine. Might want to make sure the rad fan runs. Mine runs but the damn relay doesn't seem to work. I've been riding this bike for almost two years and the fan has never run. I will be installing a manual fan switch. Best bet is to get one that is on the road at time of purchase, I think. Hopefully, the seller will be able to give you some kind of maintenance history.
As for convincing your wife....not sure what to tell you. I use the "age" approach. Not gettin' any younger and I could be dead tomorrow....so may as well go for it!