Jim, The FI relay is special. It is not a typical off-the-shelf automotive SPDT relay, the FI relay is a DPST. If you're lucky your supplier might find a Fiamm horn relay with that configuration -- extremely lucky.
Bill, before you write-off the relay, do a bench test on it to confirm that it is defective. Remove it from the socket. Apply 12V to the 85/86 pins and measure continuity on any or both of the 87/30 pin pairs. When you activate the coil with the 12V, the meter should read 0 ohms (or very close to it). With no 12V applied to the coil, the resistance should be infinite (open circuit). if this simple bench test works, you might be following a false lead. It could be the socket connections need cleaning, for example. On the other hand, if the bench test shows that there is open circuit between 30/87 pins even with power applied to the coil, this is conclusive proof of a defective relay.